Hell yes, good attitude!I'm going to play a slightly different card-
If the gun is going to be for home defense I would go with a youth model pump 410 shotgun. Easy to manage, easy to swing.
If the gun is for carry, that's a personal choice that can only be made by the shooter. My wife has a shield,but prefers a g42. MY fat hands ride to high on the 42 and I lock the slide back constantly.
The one time my wife got scared enough to go dig a gun out of my safe because she thought someone was in our garage- she grabbed my glock 17 and slammed a 33rd stick in it. Momma mode.