Defend my family and myself, absolutely... to the best of my ability and to the death, if need be.
My question is this... what do you do when/after you call the cops? What do you say or not say?
Only one thing to say:
"I am very upset by all this. I will be glad to come down to the station tomorrow with my attorney." Then STFU - as in don't say a damn thing.
NOTHING you say will make a bad situation less bad.
There are a lot more people who have "explained" their way into jail than vice versa.