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Getting a Divorce ... any Advice?
- Thread starter reklawd
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You may want to talk to a close friend rather than people that really don't know you. Good luck in your choices. Are you a member of a church?
Hate to hear it buddy , I hate your going through this just try to keep it so the kids don’t suffer , I was dragged from Columbus ga to the mountains serval times growing up , my sisters stayed with my mom and I stayed with my dad , didn’t like the life style in Columbus ga , we all turned out fine but it was a struggle , changing schools a lot can be trouble for the kids , good luck on your next adventure
Damn it
Damn it
I’ve been in that route some 14 years ago, it is the highway to hell for sure. Kids don’t deserve this.
Best wishes for you brother….. But, believe me, ex-wifey is a bad angel from hell… She will drive you nuts and if you mess up with child support, she might put you in jail. I hate divorce. I lost everything, got out with my clothing…. That’s it.
Damn it
I’ve been in that route some 14 years ago, it is the highway to hell for sure. Kids don’t deserve this.
Best wishes for you brother….. But, believe me, ex-wifey is a bad angel from hell… She will drive you nuts and if you mess up with child support, she might put you in jail. I hate divorce. I lost everything, got out with my clothing…. That’s it.
Recommend you focus all of your energy on creating the best possible environment for your kids: Best possible education, safest neighborhood, maximum support for their wants, needs, and interests. Plan on your life (and your soon to be X's life) taking a back seat in everything, in favor of the kids.
That means it could be a decade and a half before you get to focus on your wants and needs. I think you should internalize that idea as the cost of not being able to stay married while having brought kids into the world.
Your X will eventually find someone to share her life with. So will you. Those are hard events for a divorced family. It's hard on the kids. Consider delaying new romance for a while, again, to focus on the kids.
Work. Earn money. Pay for what your kids need. Use whatever free time you have to enrich your kids' lives. Try not to be bitter about it.
That means it could be a decade and a half before you get to focus on your wants and needs. I think you should internalize that idea as the cost of not being able to stay married while having brought kids into the world.
Your X will eventually find someone to share her life with. So will you. Those are hard events for a divorced family. It's hard on the kids. Consider delaying new romance for a while, again, to focus on the kids.
Work. Earn money. Pay for what your kids need. Use whatever free time you have to enrich your kids' lives. Try not to be bitter about it.
Try talking to your pastor or maybe the pastor may know someone to help advise you.
Hey man, I can't speak from experience at all but I can tell you it's best to go the route you are going rather than living in denial and being just as miserable. Although your values aren't the same, do your best to remain amicable and regardless of what she does, it is never advisable to disparage the other party, especially in front of your kids. If she chooses to do that, just reinforce with them that that is her choice but you choose to focus on them and not her. As they grow, they will appreciate and respect you more for that.
Also, take time for yourself. Don't rush to put yourself back in a potentially similar situation. If you stop looking, the right person will come along.
Surround yourself with good things, and more importantly good people.
Best of luck man.
Also, take time for yourself. Don't rush to put yourself back in a potentially similar situation. If you stop looking, the right person will come along.
Surround yourself with good things, and more importantly good people.
Best of luck man.
It is pretty crazy how they lose all empathy for you once they have decided. Hell hath no wrath
Everything I do now is in the best interest of the kids. I was already a pretty good father, but damn have I turned it up to a 10. They didn't ask for any of this.
