Why Gen 3 and not Gen 4/Gen 5? What's the difference between Gens?Recoil between a 19 & a 17 should be negligible... it's a 9mm. Besides, he's 6'1" & 220.... that's big enough to go bear hunting with a switch. I've got a daughter 5' nothing weighs about a buck 15, her nightstand gun is a G20, she shoots my 500 with full house loads. He can take it. Buy a gen3 19 before you spend $600 on an unknown. If you don't like lose $50 and start again. Half the fun of guns is sitting around telling folks about all the guns you've had!