When you go to bed worried, you don't sleep because you are constantly trying to solve your own problems. This seems to work well for me and my engineering brain on technical issues. Then I wake up with an approach to a solution. But most things in life are not that easy. No formulas for how to deal with people. That is why, as others have said, you must bend a knee to the Good Good Father and ask for his will be done. You have to give it to God. I like the movie Shadrach. Grumpy dad says "death ain't much, its life that's hard". God has defeated death with the blood of his Son Jesus. You just have to believe and have faith. Each day you have is a blessing from God. No one knows the number of their days on this Earth. Give you fears to God and count your blessings. Praying for YOU!