Therein lies the problem. There are no absolutes when it comes to which firearms suit a particular demographic.You can’t really make a remark about one woman, or a group of women, and have it apply to all women.
There are women that can pull a DA revolver trigger just fine, but can’t reliably manipulate the slide on a semi-auto.
There are women that can manipulate the slide on a semi-auto, but can’t accurately pull the trigger on a DA revolver.
There are women that can do both very well.
There are women that can’t do either.
There are men that fit all four of my above statements, as well.
Based on my experience a .38 caliber (or larger) J fame is probably the least suitable for most women but seems to be the option most often recommended to them. If it’s not the trigger press it’s the felt recoil, or the over pressure wave, or the noise, or whatever. Most times recommendations to reduce the caliber to alleviate those other issues are met with derision by the same groups that recommended a small .38 to begin with. Those same issues apply to men as well.
I’ve carried and competed with revolvers for quite some time and still struggle with using a J frame at times. I’ll never be able to make one perform to the level I’d prefer but I am dedicated to the concept of 100% accountability for my shots.
I’d prefer to see more folks renting firearms and doing their own research but that would require a fundamental change of human nature that most folks aren’t willing to pursue.