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Why is trying to make new friends so hard?

People come and go, most aren't worth the time you waste on them. Been married for 27 years today, got 2 dogs, 3 brothers and 1 child hood friend. I don't like being around people, most annoy me. The word "friend" is used too loosely and often, it's lost it's meaning
 
Life is hard and at our age 30-40s it’s hard to make friends since family, work, bills, etc get in the way. All my close friends from college all live across the country with families and demanding jobs. It’s a lot of work and energy to make new friends. I’ve noticed with older people (my parents and in laws) when the kids leave and you’re retired the friends start coming back around a lot more.

I have like 10 really good friends that I can call on, but it’s very difficult keeping up with everyone. I’ve met so many good people that I would love to hang out with, but when it comes to it my time is spent with my kids, or just shooting or hunting alone to clear my head.

Sorry for the rant, but you’re not alone and you’re not crazy.
 
Pour you time into your wife and kids and don’t worry so much about friends. Life has its seasons and you should be more concerned, IMO, about teaching and building memories in your wee ones. You will find other dads at baseball and soccer practice to hang out with. Your feelings and relationships outside the family should not be primary at this point. I say this as an old man who wishes he had better followed this advice. Friends come and go, family is for life.
 
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