OCGA 53-5-5: "A person having possession of a will shall file it with reasonable promptness with the probate court of the county having jurisdiction. The probate court may attach for contempt and may fine and imprison a person withholding a will until the will is delivered."
So, if she has your...
By law in GA, the will of a decedent must be filed in the county in which he resided, even if probate will not be opened. The law is clear. Once filed, it is public knowledge.
Sounds like a demand letter to the surviving spouse might be in order.
Try Steve Janousek--he's the best at Milsurp 1911s that I know of in GA. Lives over Tifton I believe, but i have his phone # if you need it. He's a regular at gun shows; have learned loads from him as it comes to 1911s.
As some ODTers know, I'm an elder law attorney. I have used different services in helping families deal with estates, but my main guy is a retired DC cop in Newnan, who can do it all--he will travel within reason. PM me if you need his info.