Well the op did say he already tried talking to him and it didn't do much good, so at this point, maybe he should consider talking to someone else about it
He sounds like a douchebag. Maybe he's not the great father and husband you think he is. The sad part is, his head seems to be firmly planted up his own ass and it affects everyone around him and he doesn't seem to care. You need to set him straight before he does something stupid.