Boys and girls are very different when it comes to shooting.
Boys generally seem to have less problem with recoil than girls of the same age do. I don't know if that's mental or due to physical differences in upper-body strength and configurations, or both, but I've almost always found it to be true.
I would seriously hold off on using any shotgun with the OP's daughter and let her get into shooting with a 22 for at least a year or two. You'll know when she's ready to try a shotgun (or larger rifle) again pretty easily... She'll ask you.
There's no rush to get her started with guns with more recoil. She's 12. She has the time.
Boys generally seem to have less problem with recoil than girls of the same age do. I don't know if that's mental or due to physical differences in upper-body strength and configurations, or both, but I've almost always found it to be true.
I would seriously hold off on using any shotgun with the OP's daughter and let her get into shooting with a 22 for at least a year or two. You'll know when she's ready to try a shotgun (or larger rifle) again pretty easily... She'll ask you.
There's no rush to get her started with guns with more recoil. She's 12. She has the time.