so, the wife wants a kid next year.

[sinac84]

I don't know if we're ready. And I know that you're never really "ready" but I mean we just bought a house, we still have all kinds of stuff to do with it and things to pay off. I personally feel that I'm still to selfish to have a kid right now (at least I can amit it). We have 3 dogs, I work A LOT, she works A LOT. Just seems like throwing a baby into the whole situation would be like an atom bomb. I'm about 4.5 years older than her and I'm not even 30 yet so we're good on time too. I'm a slow mover on stuff like this (big changes) and she isn't so it's going to start some friction between us because she has her mind set and she can be rather bullheaded and so can I. We've only been married a year and been together for about 6 years prior.

I dunno guys. What did you do when the wife started asking about having your first?

 

[atljetmech]

Secretly get snipped then after years of trying tell the 'ol lady it just wasn't meant to be!

 

[sinac84]

Secretly get snipped then after years of trying tell the 'ol lady it just wasn't meant to be!

F That. Ain't no one getting close to my cash and prizes with anything razor sharp.

 

[Aikibiker65]

Secretly get snipped then after years of trying tell the 'ol lady it just wasn't meant to be!

^This x2!

Actually, there is nothing wrong with waiting. I turned 31 two weeks after my first child was born. We bought the house first, worked on our careers and having some fun until we were both ready.

 

[StateLine]

If you're not ready then you should tell her exactly what you wrote up top there. If the relationship is strong, a mutual agreement will be reached. If its a deal-breaker, better to find out now. I'm guessing she'll be knocked up by Spring.

Edit: I was 30 when my daughter was born. We'd been married about 5 years at the time. She got a baby. I got a Harley Fat Boy for my 30th birthday. True story.

 

[DMGun]

There is no GOOD time to have children. If you are absolutely confident in your long term relationship and want kids at some point, go for it. If you have doubts about the relationship - do not have children. There is nothing worse for a relationship than unwanted children. And a broken home is no place to be raised.

Good Luck

 

[Lockout]

F That. Ain't no one getting close to my cash and prizes with anything razor sharp.

when you have 3 kids and divorce you would be taking that back.These nuts are money pits....

 

[sinac84]

definitely no doubts on the relationship. I think she has a timeline based on my "experience" with her and like I said, she gets something in her head and it's an act of congress to get her to change it.

 

[atljetmech]

F That. Ain't no one getting close to my cash and prizes with anything razor sharp.

Lol, it really isn't a bad procedure and it sure beats wearing a dick bag every time!

 

[linebacker]

If you "wait" until you think you can afford to have a kid, then you will never have one. Just do it!