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Anyone been forced into having your parent declared incompetent?

testdepth

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How did you deal with it? I am at a point with my father that I will have to step in soon and take over his life. Not sure how to deal with it.
 
My father goes in and out with his memory. Short term memory is gone. We sat down with him for 4 hours last night explaining why he was taken from his house in Calif and driven here to GA. We have had this same conversation about 40 times over the past weeks. I sat down with him and his bank manager and took care of all of his accounts and paperwork. He remembers none of it. He really doesn't know that he is in GA.
 
Dad just told me today that he thought I was a good neighbor of his and he doesn't remember me as his son. He doesn't remember me growing up in his home with him.
 
testdepth, my mom has dementia and my sister and I have been going through the same things you are going through for several years, with her condition getting increasingly worse. My mom, at times, does not know that I am her son. But, she can look at old pictures of me and tell me this is her son. It is how she remembers me, not how I am now. If you father is competent enough to understand, you need to get him to sign an unlimited Power of Attorney. I am not an attorney, but you should do it now, not later. You should also start looking at places to care for him, if you or another family member cannot care for him 24/7. Dementia has many sides to it, and I suggest you read as much as you can about the disorder. Many with dementia become violent and uncontrollable. It is very important to have your dad properly diagnosed. Good luck, and I wish you all the best.
 
Went through the same thing with my grandmother. Toward the end she didn't even know who I was or any of my family. I feel for you brother, prayers sent.
 
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