Dealing with teenage step kids?

[Lockout]

LOL! I shouldn't laugh, but that option would be perfect if I didn't have 2 small children with her.

And like I said, this house and our marriage were going great until he showed up at the door one day. Now the house is in disarray, there's constant interruption and it's tense. He was never like this when he would come on the weekends to visit. I have no idea what has changed.

Kids can change quickly and I would suggest putting him in another school and find him other friends.Does he have a car?
Change the door locks and you and the wife only have a key and make him sit outside until one of you show up to let him in.This would stop those random kids for showing up.

 

[noodle]

One thing I can tell you is YOU have no right as a step father to slap nor hit another mans child

I say bull****....my house.....my rules....if you don't like it then get the heck out. Slapping the butt of a disrespectful 6 year old is one thing, putting up with a POS young adult is another.

 

[Mtber1172]

One thing I can tell you is YOU have no right as a step father to slap nor hit another mans child.I can say this as I have kids and if another would have done this it would be on from a father to father stand point.I can tell you though it is very hard for you and you need to work this out with the wife and the father "if there is one".
I will respect another man if he called me and explain what happen but if that man doesn't contact me and puts his hands on my child,well it would land me in jail.Sounds like you and the wife needs to work some things out and if can't you need to explain what you can or can't do.This kind of things leads to divorce for sure and depends what kind of patience you have as a man.Good luck as you will need it!!!!

He wasn't hit. It was more like a "pick him up and throw him back a few feet to remind him who he just charged at" sort of deal.

 

[Lockout]

Boot his ass out of the house!!........He will eventually cause something bad to happen that you will not be able to fix. He needs to man up and go live on his own somewhere.......He has had a a tough life because he chose too. Way too many young adults that have had it 1000 times worse and grew up being model citizens........he is heading for jail. or keep his weed, call the cops, have him arrested. You can sign a warrant on him....they will hook him up and carry his sorry ass off to jail.

True, but so many parents does this and they still land in jail and or worse dead or being pimped.I don't suggest doing such thing as a parent I would never give up on my child EVER!!!
It takes new ways to teach these young kids the meaning of life and throwing them to the curb like a rag doll is the worst idea ever.BTW the MOM, wouldn't allow the step dad to throw their child out.It would be the step dad hits the road first.I have seen and read many stories and most all landed step dad alone.
OP Have you tried talking to a school counselor???

 

[Lockout]

He wasn't hit. It was more like a "pick him up and throw him back a few feet to remind him who he just charged at" sort of deal.

That can still be assault charge on you, and with these kids these days and their cell phones they can be pretty sneaky at doing such.Heck with today it's the kids word before yours any day in state of GA.
GA is a women/kids state not men

 

[Laxguy59]

He wasn't hit. It was more like a "pick him up and throw him back a few feet to remind him who he just charged at" sort of deal.

that'll really cut the tension between you and him from now on.

Make everything a choice for him and have your wife back you up. Want gas money? show us your grades. Want car insurance? Come home on time. If he really wants to he can choose otherwise, and let him, but make sure you and your wife follow through on the consequences for choices.

 

[rOmiLaYu]

Try loving the kid before you lay a beat down on him. Rules without relationships breed rebellion.

 

[ARCman47]

I say bull****....my house.....my rules....if you don't like it then get the heck out. Slapping the butt of a disrespectful 6 year old is one thing, putting up with a POS young adult is another.

Fo sho

 

[Mtber1172]

Kids can change quickly and I would suggest putting him in another school and find him other friends.Does he have a car?
Change the door locks and you and the wife only have a key and make him sit outside until one of you show up to let him in.This would stop those random kids for showing up.

He had a car that we bought him for his birthday. The keys are in my gun safe now and it's locked up in the garage.

The door lock idea is actually a very good one. I will definitely keep that in mind.

 

[Laxguy59]

loving before you lay a beat down on him.

that's how Rom woo'ed me.