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Do you ever feel like you just choke the living crap out of your children for just a few seconds..

greg vess

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I sent my son a text the other night explaining how the guns are suppose to be divvied up and how I need to explain to him the cost that went into each one and some that can't be replaced. It was a rather lengthy text and I sent it to him in the middle of the night. As most of you know I have extreme insomnia so I'm up all night and I sleep through the day. I do most of my thinking at night time so when I have something that I need to say I'll just go ahead and pick up the phone and send the text then instead of waiting and possibly forgetting the whole idea all together. So I texted my son back tonight and let him know I have both keys to that safe and I've been meaning to send them out I've just keep forgetting. I sent this text because my eldest son contacted my sister and ask about the combination to the safe. This was basically all that I said in this text that I sent him this night. Well he got on some kind of rampage that I'm in some mood and there's plenty of reasons why that they shouldn't talk to me and all this disrespectful s*** that I don't know where it came from.

I treated those kids like kings when they when I was raising them. Their mother was out of town 6 months out of every year because she was a trade show organizer so she traveled constantly. You know the saying that it takes the village to raise the kid well I had two boys and I raised them by myself meanwhile doing some odds and ends out of the garage to make some money. My wife even told me one time that I was the best father that she had ever seen. Of course her father was no peach but she saw the goodness and how I treated those kids. I think where I went wrong is that had a little too much time on the games and they got phones and it access to the internet too early. What shows two items have been weaponized by the devil to teach and direct people into the wrong ways of life. I truly believe that now. Now I know kids get into a kind of I don't have time for parents attitude when they're in their early twenties I remember myself running around boozing and smoozing the women. But to come off and be so disrespectful on such an innocent text. He told me I was in some kind of a mood. Of course I'm in the mood you just told me there was so much reasons for not to talk to me and then you expect me not to be in a mood. Little disrespectful s***! Said my oldest son didn't owe me anything. Which I don't believe he owes me anything except the respect and admiration for raising his s***** ass from day one up until he was about 18. Man I needed medication after that text. I was livid! Every time I text those kids it's out of love and what I have to say is about what they're going to get in the future and what they want when I'm gone. Text but are nothing but about them and their needs when I go. And I catch all this disrespectful nonsense.

I'll tell you kids ( late teens early twenties ) these days are enough to drive you nuts. Not just the little drive you nuts when you're raising them but when they get this disrespectful attitude and think they know everything. That early 20's attitude is almost too much to deal with. Of course I'm just there snickering because I know when they're my age I just want them to look back on how they treated me now and Hope they've had a change of heart since then.🤬🤬🤬🤬
 
I Love them and everything I am doing is so they have something when I am gone. That doesn't excuse them for the baten disrespect they exhibit when I text them. They get mad when I make a long text with important information but if I wrote it in a letter it would be the same thing. So I guess I am damned if I do and damned if I don't.
 
Based on the title, sounds like you need some serious help.
First of all I would never ever lay hands on my children for something like that not even for any other way. It's not an option for me! I got beat to death when I was a child and I swear I would never do that to my children. And I never had to thank the good Lord! Now I may put my arms around them to give him a good hug but that's the extent of that. What really tears me up was I was trying to help them get into the safe. Everything I do is out of love for the both of them but something has gotten a hold of them and turned them sour. You dig Skizzizel skillet!
I never yell at them I never go off for some reason and I give them the benefit of the doubt if there ever is a question. I'm never hard on those children. I just don't understand it!
 
Text is a ****ty way of communicating with people for a number of reasons, including the fact that it's short form, has a dumbass spelling guesser and hard to edit before sending. It's worse than email, and while it's "interactive", you can't have a conversation when one of the participants is gonna be asleep.

Email and letters are a ****ty way of communicating too, because again, they're not interactive but at least you can edit them pretty easily, and sit on them while you're considering whether the recipient is gonna understand the point you're making. But like text, you have no way of guiding the communication if there's a risk of miscommunication.

Try and make the time to be awake during normal human hours to have a phone conversation. Even if you have to set it up a few days ahead of time. Have an objective in mind, and no matter what else gets talked about, make sure you hit that objective, and that counts as a "successful" phone call.
 
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