Do you ever feel like you just choke the living crap out of your children for just a few seconds..

[basstracker89]

Text is a ****ty way of communicating with people for a number of reasons, including the fact that it's short form, has a dumbass spelling guesser and hard to edit before sending. It's worse than email, and while it's "interactive", you can't have a conversation when one of the participants is gonna be asleep.

Email and letters are a ****ty way of communicating too, because again, they're not interactive but at least you can edit them pretty easily, and sit on them while you're considering whether the recipient is gonna understand the point you're making. But like text, you have no way of guiding the communication if there's a risk of miscommunication.

Try and make the time to be awake during normal human hours to have a phone conversation. Even if you have to set it up a few days ahead of time. Have an objective in mind, and no matter what else gets talked about, make sure you hit that objective, and that counts as a "successful" phone call.

Thing is, no one wants to talk on the phone anymore. And they never wanted to communicate in the first place......

 

[BHPSteel]

Thing is, no one wants to talk on the phone anymore. And they never wanted to communicate in the first place......

If your own family can't recognize your phone number and/or won't answer when you call them, that's an important message itself.

 

[basstracker89]

I have 3 kids, 1 girl 2 boys. No problem with my daughter or oldest son, but my youngest son pushes me to the limit, he has no credit cards or anything else, I let him stay in any of the 3 bedrooms on the 2nd floor in my house. He pays $300, a month, he pays no utilities . He just got promoted to District manger with his company. But his room is disgusting, I told my wife once he leaves, I want his house keys. He had his car repossessed, but how he gave his mother a bull**** reason, so now he calls me for cash, because the Repo people don't do credit cards , so I drive to Lawrenceville, and pay for everything even storage fees. My wife talked me into letting him move in with us, after he broke up with his UGLY girlfriend. But, she is ready to kick him out. He knows it so yesterday he paid me 3 months rent in advance, I told him good because, your out of the house in December, that is your Christmas gift from me. He also orders food at ungodly hours but forgets to tell us at night me and my wife are scrambling for guns because no one comes by to visit at 11:30!

I know when I finally moved out I was never going back. 22yrs old. I wanted to move out at 8yrs old. Well at least I knew better. Anyways, I knew I'd rather live in a cardboard box than move back in. My Wife's and I's ambitions was to be on our own. My Dad says we're too independent. Not a bad thing considering we're still financing our adult siblings families. And one is retirement age........

 

[basstracker89]

There is hope. My daughter used to butt heads with me now that she is older, in her 30s, we communicate much better and have meaningful conversations. It was a learning experience for both of us.

I think as kids we all have to go through that just to become independent. Just part of growing up

 

[basstracker89]

Well it's just one comment he made that really hit me in the gut. The same kid 4 years ago when he came to visit said " I can't think of you doing anything different because I had a wonderful childhood! ". Now how to go from that to total disrespect over just a short period of time. It's baffling! It will be all good the next time we speak but I just had to vent. LOL I really think the internet spreads these seeds of hateful and disrespectful attitudes. That something I can't do battle with. Oh well I will just keep on chugging along and it will be alright. He will realize it one day.

You're right about the net. It was only one time, but you shouldn't ignore it. Left unchecked, could get worse. You might've caught him at a bad time. But still, correct it. You're the parent

 

[basstracker89]

Kids piss me off and I have none other than my girlfriends kids. All I can go off of is I didn't act like that even with little parental guidance, so I expect everyone to be like me.

Just basic human respect. Out the window these days.....

 

[basstracker89]

There is no way to get them to really appreciate everything you did for them growing up. They’re young and life is still blowing their minds. We give them advice and when we get lucky they follow it. I’m shocked how my kids don’t appreciate what they have or what they’ve been given, but I don’t know if I did when I was that young.

I'm sure most of us didn't. We weren't that smart......Yet. That comes with age, at least for most of us

 

[basstracker89]

I always knew that my parents sacrificed some things to provide for me and my two brothers. I appreciated it then but only when I was older did I really appreciate their "raising" of us. We were poor but never knew it because we never wanted for necessities and even a few luxuries. To have a TRS-80 PC in 1979, Intellivision game system and even a B&W 13" T.V. (in my room) was probably "middle class" but my parents never made stupid money. I know they did without some things they'd have wanted so we could have.

Sweet story. I know mine did the best they could I'm sure. Life is tough. Doesn't matter where you grew up

 

[basstracker89]

I often want to send people text messages in the middle of the night and usually I have the self control not to.

The same applies to my friends and sometimes they slip up and send it anyway and wake me up in the middle of the night. There was one guy from church that I blocked for about a year because he kept sending text messages between midnight and 3 AM because he didn't go to bed until four or five after he retired.

Another Christian lay-pastor and Chaplin asked me if I wanted to be on his list for a daily devotional; he said he sends it out every morning. I said "Yes please!"
Well... most of them come out at 7 AM which is a little too early for me but not unreasonable but when several messages started coming out at 4:30 and 5 AM I deleted / left that entire text message chain.

Turn your phone off at night. My Wife has hers on all the time. If I'm needed, they can call that #. 🤣

 

[GAgunLAWbooklet]

all right what's your wife's number?
I'll use that as my emergency night contact!