I had a date! A followup to a mysteriously closed thread.

[Stuckon22]

This too shall pass... No advice on this forum just opinions, do what you want, just different than your first marriage when seeking a mate.

 

[GlockIssue]

You said, you don't want anymore advice, so I'll respect that and keep my mouth shut in that area. Sorry it didn't end the way you wanted it to. Good luck with it though. And keep us posted.

 

[Falcon1]

Don't sweat it man she will come around. Good luck with it.

 

[PA4476]

Don't sweat it man she will come around. Good luck with it.

Unless she's not looking for a ready made family raising another womans children. In which case, she won't.

 

[IMaDad]

when people say "ready made family" it really pisses me off. not sure why. It just makes my blood boil

 

[Old_School]

I told her that I was a single dad and it was like someone told her I was really woman or I had AIDS. She was still really nice and pleasant but she was clearly digesting the info.

We've texted a little bit since, and I asked her out again. She said she would check her schedule. Ha.
Well, cross your fingers for me.

Just be cool and don't pursue her too hard. Most women hate clingy men. This instant family thing maybe came out of left field for her and she needs time to reconcile her thoughts. She probably never considered dating someone with kids before (or previously married).

 

[Alphacpa]

Love is what happens while you are trying to get laid.

So very true! ha

 

[Old_School]

when people say "ready made family" it really pisses me off. not sure why. It just makes my blood boil

Sorry, I responded before I saw your post. But think of it from her perspective...she may not yet be willing to share you with your kids, nor ready to be a second mom.

 

[PA4476]

when people say "ready made family" it really pisses me off. not sure why. It just makes my blood boil

What would call it ? If a single woman with no kids marries a man with kids, that's a ready made family. Same if a single man with no kids marries a woman with kids. What should it be called instead, you know, something that won't piss you off ?

 

[linebacker]

Not advice but an observation. I gained full custody of my two oldest daughters when I was 26 and they were 3 and 2. Although it would have been great for them to have a mom around, I raised them by myself for 6 years until I eventually re-married. I dated a few here and there but found it harder for me because most women in their mid 20's did not want a package deal. I distinctly remember the shocked look on their faces when I told them that I was a single dad of two little girls. Very few were receptive of the idea and the majority were just not ready for it. Another way for a man to look at it is, when dating a woman with kids. There is a certain cloud that will always hang over their head because they are a single parent. The drama and the baggage come with the package. Good luck to you sir.