Odd child support issue

[chucklenut]

Is there any chance this other guy is the father? If so, I'd refer to the above post and get out of that crap! If not, and you're certain it is your child, I'd still pay child support instead of trying to get out of it merely on these grounds. It's for your kid not your ex wife.

Child support goes to thevformer spouse, not the kid. Someone mentioned showing receipts.....,.i like that idea

Personally i think the payments of child support should be made in the form of gift cards only redeemable at clothing amd food stores

Lol, like child support ebt

 

[Sneakypete]

Who does the birth certificate say is the father ?

^^^^THIS^^^^^

 

[biker_bill]

Maybe he adopted the child? In which case, I believe you are no longer responsible for child support.
One way or another talk to the attorney, there's a BIG question here.

On the subject of child support;
I know what it's like to pay for 13 years.
I know what it's like to be paying so much you don't have food to eat.
(For the 1st couple of years anyway.)

But in 13 years I was never a day late or a dollar short, because it was for my kids.
Maybe I was lucky, because my ex was a good mother.
I have no idea how you would divvy up the bills she had to show what money was being used where.
Receipts? I have no idea how such a thing can be done. They were warm, fed and clothed, that's something you can clearly see. They had electric and water and all the things we take for granted.

There came a time when she needed a new car, the old was unsafe and unreliable.
She was nervous about purchasing it.
Some of the child support money was going to be used to pay for it.
I told her to go for it, it was needed, I wanted my kids in a safe and reliable car.
The car was used for her and the kids, she needed to get to work, the kids needed to get to their activities and they needed to get to town to shop.

I have a wonderful relationship with my two children. One is 29 now and the other 32.
Keep the kids the focus of any conversation you may have with your ex and you'll feel a lot less pain and anger.

At times it was terribly difficult in so many different ways it's hard to imagine.
But there are stages in your life when things are difficult, in every life.
This too shall pass.

I said for years when I'm no longer paying for child support I'm taking my ex wife to the Ferrari dealer as my credit reference and I'm getting a Ferrari.

I never did get the Ferrari, but I did buy a plane, lol.

 

[Bulljacket]

But in 13 years I was never a day late or a dollar short, because it was for my kids.

Wish more parents did the same! It's as though he/she won't pay thinking the ex-spouse will suffer, but not paying only hurts your child!

 

[chucklenut]

Maybe he adopted the child? In which case, I believe you are no longer responsible for child support.
One way or another talk to the attorney, there's a BIG question here.

On the subject of child support;
I know what it's like to pay for 13 years.
I know what it's like to be paying so much you don't have food to eat.
(For the 1st couple of years anyway.)

But in 13 years I was never a day late or a dollar short, because it was for my kids.
Maybe I was lucky, because my ex was a good mother.
I have no idea how you would divvy up the bills she had to show what money was being used where.
Receipts? I have no idea how such a thing can be done. They were warm, fed and clothed, that's something you can clearly see. They had electric and water and all the things we take for granted.

There came a time when she needed a new car, the old was unsafe and unreliable.
She was nervous about purchasing it.
Some of the child support money was going to be used to pay for it.
I told her to go for it, it was needed, I wanted my kids in a safe and reliable car.
The car was used for her and the kids, she needed to get to work, the kids needed to get to their activities and they needed to get to town to shop.

I have a wonderful relationship with my two children. One is 29 now and the other 32.
Keep the kids the focus of any conversation you may have with your ex and you'll feel a lot less pain and anger.

At times it was terribly difficult in so many different ways it's hard to imagine.
But there are stages in your life when things are difficult, in every life.
This too shall pass.

I said for years when I'm no longer paying for child support I'm taking my ex wife to the Ferrari dealer as my credit reference and I'm getting a Ferrari.

I never did get the Ferrari, but I did buy a plane, lol.

Lol, using an exwife as a credit reference

Thats funny

 

[biker_bill]

Lol, using an exwife as a credit reference

Thats funny

I know, I know, lol, but she'd have told them he's never been a day late or a dollar short, oh ho ho ho.

 

[chucklenut]

I know, I know, lol, but she'd have told them he's never been a day late or a dollar short, oh ho ho ho.

Id trust it for sure!

 

[jawja clay]

Im not a lawyer but am well versed in the subject. After having been dragged through the system for years.
In Georgia, custodial parents do not have to account for a dime of child support. Secondly, if you were married at the time of the birth of the child, the courts have ruled its your child. At age 14 the child can decide who they want to live with or even if they want to spend time with. If they so choose they can stop seeing you and there is nothing you can do except keep paying child support. Courts do not care about fathers. It took years to get the law changed to where both parents income is figured in the calculation. The tables used to calculate CS are not even based on cost they are figured from a study group in OK that every state adopted. By law these CS tables are suppose to be review every 3 three years. They haven't been studies since 2006.

Get involved in fathers groups that are fighting for fathers rights. Contact your local representative about the unfair CS laws in Georgia. The only way for change is to help the fight.

My support ended in 2006. I got a thank you note from my ex from the Fiji Islands thanking me for the trip of her life time.

I trashed it and moved on.

Best of luck to you, its a long and bumpy ride.

 

[biker_bill]

I am all for child support and I commend all who keep it caught up. But I feel that the laws should require that whichever parent is receiving it should have to keep and show receipts to show what that money is actually spent on. A friend of ours recieved $120.00 each and every week. She has been known many times to brag that the mony her ex pays her is her weekend party money. She goes out every weekend and hits the clubs.

Well then that woman is a dirt bag and something should be done about it.
Fortunately some of us had good people for our childrens Mom.

But receipts? How the heck would you divvy up the electric bill, water bill, car insurance, rent, car payment, heating fuel, toilet paper, the groceries and of course I could just keep listing things, but that would be silly, so I won't.

My point is it should be enough for the father to see his children and warm, fed, clothed and loved.
You should be able to see you make a difference, that sure makes it easier when it comes time to write that check every month. Especially if you're hunting and fishing for your own meals because there wasn't enough money to write that check and buy yourself food. But we're grown men, we can tighten our belts a notch and get food for ourselves. We're "The Man" and sometimes we have to step up to plate and act like it.

 

[roryred]

There are dozens of stories about men paying child support for children that aren't theirs. This is a common issue and cannot be solved simply. Contact an attorney.

The theory of child support is honorable. The application of GA law is nothing short of highway robbery. Having paid thousands of dollars per month and picking up my kids without shoes or shirts is proof of the ineffective nature of child support to actually provide for the needs of the children.