Some words to say to a friend

[Apollo]

I'm at a lost for words. A friend (coworker) just found out he has pancreatic cancer. It's terminal. He is a father of a 4 month boy and has a wife. He is so worried about his family and I all I can do is shed tears with him. I just don't know what I can say?

 

[Laufen]

I'm at a lost for words. A friend (coworker) just found out he has pancreatic cancer. It's terminal. He is a father of a 4 month boy and has a wife. He is so worried about his family and I all I can do is shed tears with him. I just don't know what I can say?

I worked at a cancer facility in Switzerland for a time. The thing only thing people that were recently diagnosed wanted to hear is that you were with them. That's it. Sorry for your bad news man.

 

[Chuckdog]

The best advice I can give you, "listen, really listen to him."

There's likely little you can say anyway, but someone that's listening to you and your thoughts/fears in a time of genuine need may be priceless.

 

[captdave77]

The worst thing you can do is say nothing.

 

[Bear44]

Try to set something up to help his family. Get creative, get public. Who knows, it might take off and they will get set up financially for life. I know if I were in his shoes knowing they would be OK would make everything else a lot easier.

 

[LMK]

Heart breaking
You are doing exactly the right thing. He is lucky to have someone who will cry with him and for him. I encourage you to continue to be in that simple spot for him. There is NOTHING more important. Let us know how we can support you and him. If we dont help each other we are done. Prayers,

 

[Apollo]

Thanks brothers for the advice. It's so hard to say anything comforting. I found out I am a expected father a couple days ago. It's the happiest time of my life but yet so very sad. I've explained to him that I will try my best to help with what I can. Working next to a man for 3 1/2 years 75 hours a week, we have come to be very close friends. He is in the middle of his citizenship and his wife is here on a work visa. I'm liquidating some personnel items to help with some more medical costs and unforeseen future events. I will list some more stuff here when I arrive home. Thanks again guys, your prayers are much welcomed and appreciated. God bless

 

[chucklenut]

while that stuff is no joke, people dont have expiration dates on them.

do your best to remind him that every day counts and he has people who support him, not much else you can say or do except be there when he needs it

 

[dbienfait]

Just be there for him bud thats all you can do...

 

[Alphacpa]

First of all, make sure that this is a second diagnosis. If he has not seen at least two specialists he may still have a chance. If this diagnosis has been confirmed by a second specialist, then offer to assist him making a video that will allow him to share himself for the benefit of a child that will never meet him. You can do some research and include a Q&A session on the tape. This is constructive and will be priceless to the child. You can rent studio quality equipment at very resonable prices or just use a top quality home unit. This can be done outside or in. I've done it many years ago, and it was tough but oh so worthwhile. Good luck and I'm sorry to hear this news.