This true buddy.. I’ve bounced around some myself ( just because it was good money for the work) but I’ve gotten softer in my age( less anger on most days)Met a few that did their best to convince everyone that they were. Most has muscles made of loaf bread and were soft when you put hands(or fists) on them.
I was a bouncer in three states, spent a little time bounty hunting and 14 years LEO.
If they have to tell you they are a bad ass, they are not.