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In (*some places in) Georgia , mediation is mandatory. Make sure if you hire a pitbull, they are not just a trial pitbull, but a mediation pitbull as well. You may not get to trial or in front of a judge.

Ask me how I know.

Lots of good advice in this thread.

I am sorry you are facing this. 29 years and out, for me. Two daughters who suffer to this day, 5 years later.

The next several months will feel like hell, more than you’ll ever expect, but the sun does shine on the other side.

God bless you, brother.
 
6Bones said:
In Georgia, mediation is mandatory. Make sure if you hire a bulldog, they they are not just a trial bulldog, but a mediation bulldog as well. You may not get to trial or in front of a judge.

Ask me how I know.

Lots of good advice in this thread.

I am sorry you are facing this. 29 years and out, for me. Two daughters who suffer to this day, 5 years later.

The next several months will feel like hell, more than you’ll ever expect, but the sun does shine on the other side.

God bless you, brother.
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Mediation is not mandatory in GA. If you can agree on a settlement/division of marital assets you can fill out the paperwork yourselves and file as self-represented. The only requirement is you have to attend a mandatory Family Law class online. Ask me how I know...

Edit: This likely won't be the case for OP after so many years though...
 
kodis556 said:
Mediation is not mandatory in GA. If you can agree on a settlement/division of marital assets you can fill out the paperwork yourselves and file as self-represented. The only requirement is you have to attend a mandatory Family Law class online. Ask me how I know...

Edit: This likely won't be the case for OP after so many years though...
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Perhaps uncontested. It was mandatory where I was served.

Best to check, for sure, but if mediation is on the table, make sure your attorney is skilled at mediation! Mine was not and I paid the price, figuratively and literally!
 
kodis556 said:
Mediation is not mandatory in GA. If you can agree on a settlement/division of marital assets you can fill out the paperwork yourselves and file as self-represented. The only requirement is you have to attend a mandatory Family Law class online. Ask me how I know...

Edit: This likely won't be the case for OP after so many years though...
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There is no such requirement in my county.
 
J.W. said:
I guess I will be a statistic of another long-term marriage that unraveled.

I haven't been through this process before, but I know I will need an attorney.

Can anyone recommend a divorce attorney near Dalton / Whitfield county?

Also, if anyone has any tips or insights on how to proceed/prepare, please comment or message me.

Thank you all.
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Congratulations!

*She probably doesn't give a **** about you anymore. Think if it as unwinding a business and get over the butthurt ASAP

*Do not use your attorney as a therapist. Strictly business. Do everything you can yourself using ChatGPT.

*Either figure things out directly with your ex and use the attorneys to facilitate OR reduce all contact with ex and get to mediator/judge ASAP

*It only takes one person to make divorce ****ty, high conflict.

*Attorneys make more money on ****ty, high conflict divorces.

*If she is uncompromising and unreasonable, go straight for the Judge. This is where you need to NOT listen to your attorney about avoiding a judge. Most divorces DONT go to a judge, but all the attorneys make you scared of a Judge then you pay them tons of money not to go to a judge and go back and forth with other attorney's and mediators.. If she is unreasonable and uncompromising (based on the opinion of your a attorney and research you do yourself) just go through the required mediation quickly (end it after an hour instead of paying everyone for a day of billable hours) and push for the Judge.

*Be reasonable. It ****ing sucks and you will lose a ton. In your mind you will not think it is fair. Life is not fair. Just go by what the law deems is fair and walk away.

*Get to indifference about her and the process as soon as possible. Focus on finding your peace.

*Married people DO NOT KNOW what you are going through. They will not be close to as supportive as you think they should. You will lose friends. Woman typically have a much better support network than men. Who the **** cares. Its all on you to figure it out. Deal with it.

*Get over being afraid to be alone. After a couple of years, you will love it.

*If your marriage is really bad and you are completely miserable ... Divorce is worth it. You only live once.

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6Bones said:
Perhaps uncontested. It was mandatory where I was served.

Best to check, for sure, but if mediation is on the table, make sure your attorney is skilled at mediation! Mine was not and I paid the price, figuratively and literally!
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Correct, uncontested no kids is the key. Total no brainer when the marriage is relatively short.
 
reklawd said:
Congratulations!

*She probably doesn't give a **** about you anymore. Think if it as unwinding a business and get over the butthurt ASAP

*Do not use your attorney as a therapist. Strictly business. Do everything you can yourself using ChatGPT.

*Either figure things out directly with your ex and use the attorneys to facilitate OR reduce all contact with ex and get to mediator/judge ASAP

*It only takes one person to make divorce ****ty, high conflict.

*Attorneys make more money on ****ty, high conflict divorces.

*If she is uncompromising and unreasonable, go straight for the Judge. This is where you need to NOT listen to your attorney about avoiding a judge. Most divorces DONT go to a judge, but all the attorneys make you scared of a Judge then you pay them tons of money not to go to a judge and go back and forth with other attorney's and mediators.. If she is unreasonable and uncompromising (based on the opinion of your a attorney and research you do yourself) just go through the required mediation quickly (end it after an hour instead of paying everyone for a day of billable hours) and push for the Judge.

*Be reasonable. It ****ing sucks and you will lose a ton. In your mind you will not think it is fair. Life is not fair. Just go by what the law deems is fair and walk away.

*Get to indifference about her and the process as soon as possible. Focus on finding your peace.

*Married people DO NOT KNOW what you are going through. They will not be close to as supportive as you think they should. You will lose friends. Woman typically have a much better support network than men. Who the **** cares. Its all on you to figure it out. Deal with it.

*Get over being afraid to be alone. After a couple of years, you will love it.

*If your marriage is really bad and you are completely miserable ... Divorce is worth it. You only live once.

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reklawd reklawd that's some great advice
Thank you for all of that.

As for:
reklawd said:
Get to indifference about her and the process as soon as possible. Focus on finding your peace.
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I'm already there brother. Getting my papers ensured I had zero **cks left to give.
 
Just a quick follow up on this post.

1st - Thank you all for your help, insights, and comments. I appreciate the help and support more that I can adequately express here on the ODT.

I have been speaking with lawyers, and I am trying to determine who would be the best for my situation. That's not an easy one for me because I don't have much experience in this arena, but I am trying to speak with a few attorneys to get a feel for each on of them. For me, it's hard to know what to trust when speaking with them.

One thing I wanted to post (and hopefully, no one needs it) is this link to some online spreadsheets and calculators. I have been using the Property Division Worksheet, and it has been very helpful to me. (https://divfinsolutions.com/free-tools/)
 
Remember, those spreadsheets , calculators, and worksheets are a guideline. The Judge can alter those, mine certainly were.

Without kids it should be a relatively painless process. (As long as your soon to be ex is reasonable)
 
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