Oh no brother, I was agreeing with you. I find it strange as well. If I was 8 years sober, I’d consider myself “cured.” I would quit AA and stop declaring myself an alcoholic but I understand the thought process from the other side too I guess.I completely understand that. And every situation is unique I'm sure. It just seems some who are able would be willing to declare victory. But absolutely whatever works and keeps people between the lines.
Congrats to your wife!!!
Like most I guess, I have a few family members that will never get to the other side because they refuse to even acknowledge it.