ya im going to need to review everything
they are trying to pull one over on me and her
I don't think they are trying to pull one over on you. It's been standard practice at every apartment complex I've worked at. Good luck trying to fight it. If it's a complex that is owned by a big management company then the actual leasing office doesn't have any say over the rules. The are really just the messenger on it. I would say this is a battle you're not going to win. If it were me, i wouldn't have said anything. I would just stay there and if they "catch" you they won't know when you started living there. Do exactly what Z3 said. You're just visiting for a few weeks.
