many people expose their personal lives online. some had bad experiences with it, others had good experiences. one might even call it group therapy. the good part is when the online community is supportive (as with any peer group).
my online advice, survive through this and it will work itself out. you are still young and still learning about life. i've seen dad's that complain about not seeing their kids but in fact regret changing their lifestyle once they get custody. like a few members posted, we don't know both sides of the story. but since there really isn't a true right vs wrong, it's mostly about a relationship that wasn't supported by both parties. unfortunately, a daughter has to grow up with separated parents. raising a child by oneself is alot more difficult than just having visitations.
at the moment, you will be more focused on your situation. if you really care about you daughter, losing your guns should be a no brainer. you are young and there are other career opportunities that doesn't deal in carrying a firearm. if you really want custody or at least visitation with your daughter, you really need to kiss up to your ex.
allow me to share my experience when i was your age. it may or may not have any meaning to you. i married early and had children. at the time, i was active in motorcycle racing and hung around a macho group of guys that partied hard and treated women as sport. i loved my kids, but i wasn't a good father. i did more playing than child rearing. eventually, my wife felt that she was the only parent and our relationship soured. she was open game to any guy hunting for prey and she eventually accepted the advances of another man. as i told my situation with others, it seemed like i was being cheated on and my wife was the bad person. that's how it looked at the time.
but after i took a hard look at my life and what it really means to have children, i quit fighting with my wife (separated at time). i sold all my man toys (race bikes, cars, guns, etc...) and grew up. i went back and finished up college but never really used that education since my determination was for the present employment and not future employment. it took about two years and i made up with my wife. communication is key. when you start arguing, then communications has ended.
15 years have passed and we have 4 kids (2 boys and 2 girls), one just turning 18 (daughter). our marriage worked out since we can talk with each other without completely losing our temper and realize we both want to make each other happy. but to fix a broken marriage, one has to take the first step. i guess that's what being a man is all about. the decision is yours, you can either be a jerk to your ex or show her you were the person she fell in love with. grrr... i hate sounding like a wuss in a gun forum. i'm gonna go borrow a buddy's desert eagle and fire a few rounds.
-a|ex
my online advice, survive through this and it will work itself out. you are still young and still learning about life. i've seen dad's that complain about not seeing their kids but in fact regret changing their lifestyle once they get custody. like a few members posted, we don't know both sides of the story. but since there really isn't a true right vs wrong, it's mostly about a relationship that wasn't supported by both parties. unfortunately, a daughter has to grow up with separated parents. raising a child by oneself is alot more difficult than just having visitations.
at the moment, you will be more focused on your situation. if you really care about you daughter, losing your guns should be a no brainer. you are young and there are other career opportunities that doesn't deal in carrying a firearm. if you really want custody or at least visitation with your daughter, you really need to kiss up to your ex.
allow me to share my experience when i was your age. it may or may not have any meaning to you. i married early and had children. at the time, i was active in motorcycle racing and hung around a macho group of guys that partied hard and treated women as sport. i loved my kids, but i wasn't a good father. i did more playing than child rearing. eventually, my wife felt that she was the only parent and our relationship soured. she was open game to any guy hunting for prey and she eventually accepted the advances of another man. as i told my situation with others, it seemed like i was being cheated on and my wife was the bad person. that's how it looked at the time.
but after i took a hard look at my life and what it really means to have children, i quit fighting with my wife (separated at time). i sold all my man toys (race bikes, cars, guns, etc...) and grew up. i went back and finished up college but never really used that education since my determination was for the present employment and not future employment. it took about two years and i made up with my wife. communication is key. when you start arguing, then communications has ended.
15 years have passed and we have 4 kids (2 boys and 2 girls), one just turning 18 (daughter). our marriage worked out since we can talk with each other without completely losing our temper and realize we both want to make each other happy. but to fix a broken marriage, one has to take the first step. i guess that's what being a man is all about. the decision is yours, you can either be a jerk to your ex or show her you were the person she fell in love with. grrr... i hate sounding like a wuss in a gun forum. i'm gonna go borrow a buddy's desert eagle and fire a few rounds.
-a|ex
