I had a date! A followup to a mysteriously closed thread.

[albatros43]

no man. shes perfect for me.

and taking dating advice from the ODT is like freebasing roundup and injecting it into your genitals. haha

I'm pretty sure you need to ask @Bypass about women

 

[PA4476]

How did the fact that you have kids not come up during dinner, or better yet, how did it not come up during you asking her out ?
I'm not offering advise, I have been happily married for going on 30 years and don't have any kids. But it seems unusual that it never came up till the end of the date.

Also, a girl in her mid 20's may not be looking for a ready made family. If she had known about the children before the date, you might have saved some cash.

 

[fattboyzz]

no man. shes perfect for me.

and taking dating advice from the ODT is like freebasing roundup and injecting it into your genitals. haha

She is perfect and you are gaga for her.....OK moving on back to reality ....

 

[jimmythegem]

no man. shes perfect for me.

and taking dating advice from the ODT is like freebasing roundup and injecting it into your genitals. haha

Great idea. Your next text to her should be "I like to freebase roundup and injecting it into genitals". Just a thought

 

[BangBang]

the best thing you can do right now is not answer her next few texts. Make her come to you for attention. No one ever listens to me on this, but it works every time. just wait like a day to respond. sounds like she was about to take you to pound town until she found out about the kids. lots of folks worry about baby mama drama. the less you sweat her the more she will wonder why.

^^^THIS^^^

 

[BangBang]

She is perfect and you are gaga for her.....OK moving on back to reality ....

Aw, come on! You know how it is when you first meet somebody....

Everything about them is perfect and they are the greatest thing ever.

We've all been there before.

 

[IMaDad]

How did the fact that you have kids not come up during dinner, or better yet, how did it not come up during you asking her out ?
I'm not offering advise, I have been happily married for going on 30 years and don't have any kids. But it seems unusual that it never came up till the end of the date.

Also, a girl in her mid 20's may not be looking for a ready made family. If she had known about the children before the date, you might have saved some cash.

There's two ways I will ask someone out:
1- I tell them I am a single dad and then ask
2-I ask and then when it comes up, I tell them.

I only use number two if I am REALLY interested in a woman and I want her to get to know me and see if we connect before she finds out about kids. I mean its always comes out on the first date anyways.

 

[jwtug]

She is perfect and you are gaga for her.....OK moving on back to reality ....

Yep. He's blinded by "love"

 

[WC1911guy]

Just take it a day at a time. The biggest mistake most divorced guys make is having expectations. It's hard, especially when you have a little one but you've got to just go with the flow and if she's in you'll know it. Leave the expectations out of it. You had a good time and she'll remember that.

I'm recently divorced but my son is 18 now and lived with his Mom. The age gap between you isn't bad as most guys are about as mature at 30 as girls are at 25. Then again, you've been married and have a kid so you've had to grow up already. My GF and I are 14 years apart (she's younger) and as long as everyone is getting their needs met then all is good. Good luck.

 

[jwtug]

Just take it a day at a time. The biggest mistake most divorced guys make is having expectations. It's hard, especially when you have a little one but you've got to just go with the flow and if she's in you'll know it. Leave the expectations out of it. You had a good time and she'll remember that.

I'm recently divorced but my son is 18 now and lived with his Mom. The age gap between you isn't bad as most guys are about as mature at 30 as girls are at 25. Then again, you've been married and have a kid so you've had to grow up already. My GF and I are 14 years apart (she's younger) and as long as everyone is getting their needs met then all is good. Good luck.

Kids do make you mature faster. I'm 32 with 4 kids. I've been raising young uns since I was 19. And I'm not sure if guys ever really mature. Our toys just get bigger and more dangerous.