Pregnant wife and hormones

[Apollo]

So here is the main issue.
Ultimately it is her body. There are a lot of extra tests to have done inculding Down syndrome,cystic fibrosis, spinabifida, etc... These are just an option to have. So one of her friends says not to do any cause it just causes unnecessary worries. I told her that I would like to have them done even though abortion would never be a option, knowing any special conditions before birth would be helpful in preparing for what would be ahead of us. Now she is all worked up already cause her friend and She doesn't even consider my opinion? Is that right. I thought we were in this together. It is her body, but don't I have a say so in this? This should at least be a consideration to sit down and talk about but she won't have anything to do with it. Am I in the wrong to be angry?

 

[Laufen]

Let her have her way. You're right, all you could do is prepare/worry--just enjoy it and let her make those decisions if she feels strongly about it. One of the best things you can do is be supportive. If you go back with caring, understanding and a sincere apology for your part in the argument she may have a change of heart and side with you anyway.

The old "flies/honey/vinegar" adage comes to mind. Good luck!

 

[FredAlert]

About the next 18 years.

My wife never had any kind of hormonal stuff, even pms until after our second kid .... and now every 28 days she becomes a bipolar crazy person ...

Pregnant wife and hormones got the best of me tonight. We never have had an argument this bad in 10 years. I let it be, held my breath and decided to leave Toccoa and stay at my other home for a night or so. I will love her till the end but how long does this nonsense linger for???

 

[Exile]

Ok, Apollo I have read the entire thread now and I have a question.

Do you still want the phone or what?

HaHa, sorry brother. I have 3 girls with the same woman and still feel lost half the time. Patience is worth more than gold and the ability to hold your tongue from time to time.There will be a time soon when she is in a better place and maybe you can revisit your concerns without it being a declaration of war.

 

[bjordaninatl]

It will get better after she gets a few weeks of good nights sleep...in like... 3 years. I have 3 boys and I wouldnt trade them for the world. But damnit man, it aint an easy road. I recommend after she has the baby try to get her away for some R&R ASAP. Leave the baby with the grands if you can. She will need it and so will YOU.

 

[Apollo]

Ok, Apollo I have read the entire thread now and I have a question.

Do you still want the phone or what?

HaHa, sorry brother. I have 3 girls with the same woman and still feel lost half the time. Patience is worth more than gold and the ability to hold your tongue from time to time.There will be a time soon when she is in a better place and maybe you can revisit your concerns without it being a declaration of war.

Yes my friend. I'm still interested. I have a list of things to do for the next couple days. So I will contact you soon enough

 

[Jack O A T]

So here is the main issue.
Ultimately it is her body. There are a lot of extra tests to have done inculding Down syndrome,cystic fibrosis, spinabifida, etc... These are just an option to have. So one of her friends says not to do any cause it just causes unnecessary worries. I told her that I would like to have them done even though abortion would never be a option, knowing any special conditions before birth would be helpful in preparing for what would be ahead of us. Now she is all worked up already cause her friend and She doesn't even consider my opinion? Is that right. I thought we were in this together. It is her body, but don't I have a say so in this? This should at least be a consideration to sit down and talk about but she won't have anything to do with it. Am I in the wrong to be angry?

Man, I understand where you are coming from, but we opted out on those tests as well. Besides a lot of worrying, there isn't much you can do if they are positive. Besides, your main job is keeping her calm and in as happy a place as you can. Any added stress she feels will come back on all three of you. Ask me how I know this. 2 girls under 3yo. Trust, it will pass. Hang it there friend.

 

[Apollo]

Man, I understand where you are coming from, but we opted out on those tests as well. Besides a lot of worrying, there isn't much you can do if they are positive. Besides, your main job is keeping her calm and in as happy a place as you can. Any added stress she feels will come back on all three of you. Ask me how I know this. 2 girls under 3yo. Trust, it will pass. Hang it there friend.

Man I went through hell and back last night. After my rage cigarette purchase denial I turned around and headed back to a dead bolted house. Knocked once and decided I didn't want to wake her up so just turned around again and ended up in Gwinnett at 3:30am with no cigarettes,gas or wallet. Went to my bank this morning and my local teller that I always see is on vacation till the 9th. Wife has my wallet and now her and her mother decided to go to Helen for a day or two. Absolutely worst month so far..

 

[Jack O A T]

That's pretty tough. I'm not one to dole out relationship advice, but it will pass and pride is one of the seven deadlies for a reason. Just look at it this way... this will be a great story to tell your son or daughter when they are going through the same thing years from now!

 

[zesty]

Man I went through hell and back last night. After my rage cigarette purchase denial I turned around and headed back to a dead bolted house. Knocked once and decided I didn't want to wake her up so just turned around again and ended up in Gwinnett at 3:30am with no cigarettes,gas or wallet. Went to my bank this morning and my local teller that I always see is on vacation till the 9th. Wife has my wallet and now her and her mother decided to go to Helen for a day or two. Absolutely worst month so far..

LOL, man, you really pissed her off. You have every right to be pissed, but your rights are voided by the fact that she's carrying your baby. Suck it up, apologize in a big way, and try to survive until it's over. Things will get better. Good luck.