so, the wife wants a kid next year.

[freedom]

If you wait till you think you're ready or think you can afford it, you'll never have one. A kid is much less trouble than 3 dogs, seriously.

 

[Shovelhead]

Take her to a daycare center for a week... then see if she will even let you near her

 

[sinac84]

If you wait till you think you're ready or think you can afford it, you'll never have one. A kid is much less trouble than 3 dogs, seriously.

Can you crate at kid?

 

[sinac84]

Take her to a daycare center for a week... then see if she will even let you near her

I wish that would work, she volunteers at the church childcare on Sundays.

 

[Patronus]

I don't know if we're ready. And I know that you're never really "ready" but I mean we just bought a house, we still have all kinds of stuff to do with it and things to pay off. I personally feel that I'm still to selfish to have a kid right now (at least I can amit it). We have 3 dogs, I work A LOT, she works A LOT. Just seems like throwing a baby into the whole situation would be like an atom bomb. I'm about 4.5 years older than her and I'm not even 30 yet so we're good on time too. I'm a slow mover on stuff like this (big changes) and she isn't so it's going to start some friction between us because she has her mind set and she can be rather bullheaded and so can I. We've only been married a year and been together for about 6 years prior.



I dunno guys. What did you do when the wife started asking about having your first?

And on top of all that ya gotta buy a van with no windows, research how much ether to administer, set up the basement "nursery" for the retraining period... Then there's the hours of casing the playgrounds and shopping for just the right kid....SO much work.

 

[dwilson42]

I promise its not as bad as you build it up to be we had my son not even planning it
and I'll tale you before I wasn't sure I even wanted kids and I built it up to be the scariest thing ever
and It is....
Until they are here and then you just know what to do when to do it and how to get it done
Its hard at times I wont lie but once you do it you won't trade it for anything in the world.
Do it while your still young for sure cuz I dont see how older dads keep up lol

 

[ADAM]

If you're not ready then you should tell her exactly what you wrote up top there. If the relationship is strong, a mutual agreement will be reached. If its a deal-breaker, better to find out now. I'm guessing she'll be knocked up by Spring.

Edit: I was 30 when my daughter was born. We'd been married about 5 years at the time. She got a baby. I got a Harley Fat Boy for my 30th birthday. True story.

^^THIS^^ I was 20 when I had my first of 3 that I have now..also divorced, just be honest with her no matter the outcome man..

 

[sinac84]

She knows how I feel but its like I know how she feels about me wanting more guns....

 

[Patronus]

Guns are cheaper and you can lock them in a safe when you want to go out.

 

[sinac84]

Guns are cheaper and you can lock them in a safe when you want to go out.

That's what I'm trying to explain to her!