so, the wife wants a kid next year.

[Bioshock]

Have you two discussed the other aspects of raising a kid to be
Sure things will work there aswell?

Examples
Will you baby talk or talk to him/her like a lil adult?

Will you spank or use other means of punishment?
I used a great
Trick for our 3 and never had to spank em. they still talk about it today.
*trick , draw a circle chest high and have them squat with back straight
and put nose in the circle. Only take a few seconds till they get the
Message.

 

[sinac84]

Have you two discussed the other aspects of raising a kid to be
Sure things will work there aswell?

Examples
Will you baby talk or talk to him/her like a lil adult?

Will you spank or use other means of punishment?
I used a great
Trick for our 3 and never had to spank em. they still talk about it today.
*trick , draw a circle chest high and have them squat with back straight
and put nose in the circle. Only take a few seconds till they get the
Message.

I think in that respect we'll be good because my dad didn't put up with any **** and neither did my mom and I respect the hell outta them. I feel very fortunate to have parents like mine. My wife has good parents too and her little nephew doesn't get away with much when my wife is watching him

 

[6Bones]

Don't wait too long if you are going to do it. We waited 10yrs before having our first, six years after that for the second. Thought I needed to be ready, have a bunch of cash, be independently wealthy, super successful, etc. BTW, never happened.

Raising kids is a young man's game. Diapering babies at 36 wasn't much fun. It plain sucked at 41. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids like a hand made nickel-plated 1911 with a competition trigger but dang if it ain't hard chasing them around when you are pushing 50.

Getting the "come home and do me now" call is one of the perks, so here is to hoping you don't run the "kick-off" back for a touchdown on your first set of downs.

Ps Kids don't keep you young.

Best of luck.

 

[sinac84]

I forgot to mention, my desk at work is right by the childcare. Best birth control ever. I see and hear all those kids screaming and crying I'm horrified. Lol.

 

[57tr6]

I dunno guys. What did you do when the wife started asking about having your first?

She said she wanted one so I said ok. We ended up with a son and a daughter. Now we have six grandaughters and a grandson. Thats a lot of little people to love that wouldn't be here otherwise. No regrets. Maybe one of them will take care of me when I get really old.

 

[hoochfisher]

my wife and I have been married 10 years. the first 7 1/2 neither of us wanted a baby. we said the same as everyone else: we are not ready, we need a house, carrer, lots of cash. we were responsible and took the steps to prevent pregnancy. then, her sister had one and that started to change her mind. it started changing mine as well. we now have a son that turned 2 last sunday. being a parent is the absolute greatest, most wonderful, horrible feeling all at once! when you do have one and your getting woke up all hours of the night or have a baby in your bed that's actually sleeping through the night all while kicking the hell out of you keeping you awake anyway, you'll understand the last of my parenthood sentiment! I thought I had many great things in my life but watching my child see and discover new things with such joy and excitement in his eyes and his little arms around my neck is the greatest thing ive ever known. it will change you a man and as a human. it will make you a crying fool no matter how much of a hot **** tough guy you think you are.

but as for which descision you should make, i'll add to what every body else has already said. if you are confident shes absolutely the one you'll be with till death, that's a reason for yes. if you had a child, would you want to run and chase and play with him/her as much as possible? if so, yes, don't wait too long. brother im just about to turn 31 and its exhausting already keeping up with my 2YO. I cant imaging if we waited another 5 years. don't worry about the money thing too much right away. kids are no doubt expensive but its not as bad as we thought.

so if you find yourself in agreement with the things ive said and are beginning to find it wont be as bad as you thought, but are still unsure, do what we did: stop trying not to have one, but don't actually try to have one. if that makes since. just stop worrying over it. have fun "practicing" and it will happen when god says its time and you're supposed to.


by the way, did anyone mention the pregnant sex? the huge change in hormones creating the "horny" phase. she wont be able to get enough! lol!

 

[hoochfisher]

I forgot to mention, my desk at work is right by the childcare. Best birth control ever. I see and hear all those kids screaming and crying I'm horrified. Lol.

its not that bad man. really its not. if you're doing it right and have your child in a childproofed safe environment, simply leave them alone for 3 minutes where you know they safe and walk outside and collect your sanity. you'll see crying doesn't hurt them, it hurts you. and leaving them to cry it out is actually good for a baby. it builds confidence in themselves and you. showing them you may leave them for short periods but you always come back.

 

[AKguy]

You gotta weigh the ups and downs:

She's what, 24 or 25 right now? Biologically, that's a good childbearing age. Things don't "contract" as easily when women are older (and I don't mean the obvious, I mean fat content, skin, etc.). Also, it's been said that women who have kids at a younger age (mid-20's) don't get completely ****ed up by hormone changes, and still have a fairly high sex drive left as they age.

On the other hand, party is ****ing over when you have a kid, OVER. You may be better off waiting just a few more years.

Either way, the numbers are on your side. The only way it coulda been better if you'd picked up a 25 year old when you hit 35.

 

[oldford]

I was old enough to watch my little sister grow up from day one. And I'm never having kids. Ever.

 

[Deleted member 20875]

F That. Ain't no one getting close to my cash and prizes with anything razor sharp.

Have some kids you will beg to get snipped LOL nothing wrong with waiting