Some people are beyond helping

[WallsGa]

your title says it all. you tried, and good on you for doing so.

 

[gh1950]

5 weeks ago we invited a young couple (28 and 29) to move in with us for a few months to help them get on their feet. They both have horrible backgrounds, but we hoped that we could offer them a stable environment and good advise. We have had many issues with them especially the woman. I am certain she is bi-polar because my wife who is bi-polar agreed with me. After many nights of discussions and praying, we had to to tell them they were no longer welcomed to our home as of tonight. I hate we had to choose this course of action, but they were bringing too much strife into our lives. I feel bad for them, and feel a little guilty right now. I fear that they will be on a downward spiral now, but there is only so much we can take. Your thoughts?

My mother, who was as saintly a person as ever walked this earth, took in the neighborhood bum, gave him a bedroom and a bathroom (free), fed him, saw that he had clean clothes. Only two rules, no alcohol in her house, don't come into her house drunk - she had lived with construction workers, she didn't mind someone taking a medicinal nip. She had no rules about when and where he could go - it was a sweet deal.

He did o.k. for about 3 months, then came back stinking falling down drunk, and she put his ass on the road. Even then she felt bad about it, and felt that she had failed as a Christian.

It took me a long time to realize that for some people there is only so much you can do - at some point they have to take some responsibility for themselves, no matter what their personal demon is.

 

[Bear44]

Be glad they don't realize they don't have to leave just because you tell them to. Squatter's Rights in this State are insane.

 

[Grub Master]

Lucky for you they didn't turn into squatters and cause you a lot more trouble. It's not our responsibility to change others, just help them when we can and if they don't respond then it isn't our problem anymore. Hope everything works out ok.

 

[OttoMan]

You're way more generous and patient than I am for trying to help them in the first place. No matter how bad you feel for them you can't let YOUR household be disrupted or contaminated by their issues.

100% Agree with all the words he just said... ^^^^^

You did your Samaritan's Job Sir... Don't feel guilty!
And all the good help you've done to them, believe me, they won't ever be grateful. It happened to me same way...

You and your Wife are just wonderful People.!!!!

 

[letusbuyyourcar]

You are correct. 28 and 29.

That's what I was guessing. See those two came up in gubment schools and probably from divorced parents/ step parents. So they got all the wrong lessons from all the wrong sources. Nothing is their fault and they did their best just by showing up. Worst part is IF it gets any better for them it won't be ANY time soon. They have a long way to go to figuring it out if they ever do.

 

[BIKER13]

You did what you could with what you had to work with. They wanted someone to just hand them the life they want. Kick em to the curb.

 

[Horsehat]

Wanting things for people who don’t want it for themselves is a fools mission. It is sad but they may not even be able to change. You are a praying man so I feel certain you understand this is a spiritual problem first and foremost. You can love someone, hope for the best for them but still realize you can’t fix their problems for them. Praying for you all.

 

[Hayata]

Restraining orders tomorrow...check.

 

[letusbuyyourcar]

100% Agree with all the words he just said... ^^^^^

You did your Samaritan's Job Sir... Don't feel guilty!
And all the good help you've done to them, believe me, they won't ever be grateful. It happened to me same way...

You and your Wife are just wonderful People.!!!!

Yeah and let us not forget that dope is powerful. And not all dope is created equal. If it's pills or heroin they're just trying to not be dope sick. If it's meth they've basically turned themselves into human reptiles that can't make ANY kinda plan beyond right now. Their brain chemistry is completely screwed from the toxic **** in the speed. Crack is pretty much the same story only quicker and worse as far as lying and stealing. I say decriminalize all of it and let the gene pool get cleaned out.