Preface - I am a person of mature years - very mature years. I'm not married, no kids, no financial financial responsibilities other than day to day expenses, reasonably good income, still working.
That said, I do like to indulge myself with a lady friend, usually of equally mature years, in an evening of grown up entertainment, meaning dressing up, a nice dinner at a top rated restaurant, a show somewhere like the Fox, after dinner drinks, and then whatever adventures may come my way.
The problem - I have been following the Fani Willis drama pretty closely. Fani is being lauded as a "strong, independent, black woman". Her motto (for real) is "a man is not a plan, a man is a companion". She and the hired help she has been shagging have traveled on his dime to Napa Valley, Belize, Aruba, a cruise, and according to her, because she is not going to be dependent on any man, being the strong independent woman she is, she has always paid her half of the love jaunts to her honey bunch in cash - often several thousand dollars.
I like strong independent women, so at the as our evenings of the good life are winding down, I have started asking my companion if she considers herself a strong independent woman, (most of them being relatively highly educated, and having good jobs with lots of responsibility) and they usually respond in the affirmative. So I ask them to prove it by giving me half the cost of the evening's entertainment in cash - just so we know where we both stand power wise - i don't want to insult her by assuming the historical role of the dominant male in a developing relationship, and so it's clear that I am not denying her self image as a strong independent woman,
So far, the responses (about 5) have been universally the same, "FU", and it's not meant as an invitation. The evening festivities came to a screeching halt.
Question: For the brain trust, how can I show that I am a sensitive new age man, who wants to affirm my companion's role as a strong independent woman, who does not need the support of man, and only needs a companion?
That said, I do like to indulge myself with a lady friend, usually of equally mature years, in an evening of grown up entertainment, meaning dressing up, a nice dinner at a top rated restaurant, a show somewhere like the Fox, after dinner drinks, and then whatever adventures may come my way.
The problem - I have been following the Fani Willis drama pretty closely. Fani is being lauded as a "strong, independent, black woman". Her motto (for real) is "a man is not a plan, a man is a companion". She and the hired help she has been shagging have traveled on his dime to Napa Valley, Belize, Aruba, a cruise, and according to her, because she is not going to be dependent on any man, being the strong independent woman she is, she has always paid her half of the love jaunts to her honey bunch in cash - often several thousand dollars.
I like strong independent women, so at the as our evenings of the good life are winding down, I have started asking my companion if she considers herself a strong independent woman, (most of them being relatively highly educated, and having good jobs with lots of responsibility) and they usually respond in the affirmative. So I ask them to prove it by giving me half the cost of the evening's entertainment in cash - just so we know where we both stand power wise - i don't want to insult her by assuming the historical role of the dominant male in a developing relationship, and so it's clear that I am not denying her self image as a strong independent woman,
So far, the responses (about 5) have been universally the same, "FU", and it's not meant as an invitation. The evening festivities came to a screeching halt.
Question: For the brain trust, how can I show that I am a sensitive new age man, who wants to affirm my companion's role as a strong independent woman, who does not need the support of man, and only needs a companion?
