30yrs WOW!!! Wonder you have anything.....I have a cousin that's been married I think 5 times. I know it wasn't that long ago he stopped paying. I was in court one time and this guy had 7 baby mamas. He was ruined. He axe the judge what was he gona do........
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Thoughts on Marriage.
- Thread starter OttoMan
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Hey, the vasectomy worked.
Child support is long gone.
I'm retired, back living on a coastal island with a wonderful woman.
If you work hard and the paint fumes don't kill you maybe you can accomplish your dream as well.
I know I joke around about the whole marriage ordeal but I think my experience with it has left me tainted. So I am going to give my real thoughts on marriage and you can take from what you will or will not.
Marriage is a sacred bond between two people done so in the eyes and spirit of God. The problem with that these days is we as a nation have strayed from the path that God has laid out before us. As we progress in technology and information we regress from what God has put us on this earth to do. That is to pair off, work hard and procreate.
Over the past century we have forgotten all about God. This is where we are destin to fail in our marriages. If we take the oath before a Minister of the church we do so as a promise to God to fight through it to the end. But if we are week in our faith then what is a reason to even get married to begin with.
Everywhere, everyday we are bombarded with the opinions of those who do not believe in Christ and his promise. It's in the TV, the radio, smart phones and even our friends. The good book tells us to separate ourselves from these worldly influences but yet we dive headfirst into it every day with no though of what God has told us and warned us against.
If we do not study the word and try to live our lives accordingly we are destined to fail especially in our marriages. It takes two people of equal faith to make it work. God tells us not to pair off with someone that is not our spiritual equal. This is our number on mistake. We pair off based on lust, monetary reasons and every other reason but our spiritual equal.
Even people we are not instantly attracted to can be people we grow to love. We can find things about a person that only time can make us attracted to. For instance simple things like a smile, their mannerisms, a kind and generous heart and other things only that person can have. These are the ways of a era past that we have grown so far from because we engage in sex immediately. That sidetracks our real reasons for how we should love. That is a smoke screen created by the devil himself. It is done to make us talk of marriage for all the wrong reasons and not because we have developed a true and dedicated friendship before the physical part has taken place.
Marriage is a promise before God period. If we do not believe or worship God as we should then why fool ourselves into thinking we have what it takes to follow through the long haul of marriage. Divorce is to easy and we know that going in so we take the vows under those pretences too lightly. This is why the divorce rate is so high. There is simply not enough God in us and our vows of marriage. If we don't do it for God then to think we can do it on our own is a fools lie. Sure there are godless marriages that work out for the long haul but those are very few and far between. It is still not the whole premise of marriage. To leave and cleave to our spouse. All this above our friends, relatives and all the other influences that will seek to mislead is from our promise to God and our spouse.
I not only speak from what I have learned from God's teachings but from experience from failure. I didn't find my spiritual equal and married for the wrong reasons and I paid the price. I learned the hard way because I did not listen to God and fell into the trap of the world and not the word..
Marriage is a sacred bond between two people done so in the eyes and spirit of God. The problem with that these days is we as a nation have strayed from the path that God has laid out before us. As we progress in technology and information we regress from what God has put us on this earth to do. That is to pair off, work hard and procreate.
Over the past century we have forgotten all about God. This is where we are destin to fail in our marriages. If we take the oath before a Minister of the church we do so as a promise to God to fight through it to the end. But if we are week in our faith then what is a reason to even get married to begin with.
Everywhere, everyday we are bombarded with the opinions of those who do not believe in Christ and his promise. It's in the TV, the radio, smart phones and even our friends. The good book tells us to separate ourselves from these worldly influences but yet we dive headfirst into it every day with no though of what God has told us and warned us against.
If we do not study the word and try to live our lives accordingly we are destined to fail especially in our marriages. It takes two people of equal faith to make it work. God tells us not to pair off with someone that is not our spiritual equal. This is our number on mistake. We pair off based on lust, monetary reasons and every other reason but our spiritual equal.
Even people we are not instantly attracted to can be people we grow to love. We can find things about a person that only time can make us attracted to. For instance simple things like a smile, their mannerisms, a kind and generous heart and other things only that person can have. These are the ways of a era past that we have grown so far from because we engage in sex immediately. That sidetracks our real reasons for how we should love. That is a smoke screen created by the devil himself. It is done to make us talk of marriage for all the wrong reasons and not because we have developed a true and dedicated friendship before the physical part has taken place.
Marriage is a promise before God period. If we do not believe or worship God as we should then why fool ourselves into thinking we have what it takes to follow through the long haul of marriage. Divorce is to easy and we know that going in so we take the vows under those pretences too lightly. This is why the divorce rate is so high. There is simply not enough God in us and our vows of marriage. If we don't do it for God then to think we can do it on our own is a fools lie. Sure there are godless marriages that work out for the long haul but those are very few and far between. It is still not the whole premise of marriage. To leave and cleave to our spouse. All this above our friends, relatives and all the other influences that will seek to mislead is from our promise to God and our spouse.
I not only speak from what I have learned from God's teachings but from experience from failure. I didn't find my spiritual equal and married for the wrong reasons and I paid the price. I learned the hard way because I did not listen to God and fell into the trap of the world and not the word..
I'm living the dream every day. Retiring and living in a old folks community on the beach sounds more like a nightmare to me. Anyone who reaches retirement age and wouldn't trade it all to go back and do it again failed in life.
TLDR....
Yeah it's not for the smooth brain with a short attention span. LOL
Married primarily out of lust. Took her to prom in ‘93 and married in ‘95. But yea, when we got Right , we started really living. Just being able to remember yesterday is pretty cool. Hasn’t always been peaches&cream but I’d do it again. JusMy2undeservedCents.
Sounds like me....
'Til I hit retirement age. Still wouldn't want to live in a "Villages" environment, but down here is a whole different game. These aren't your doddering old pensioners waiting on the monthly social security check (although I'm always glad to see mine).
And, anyone who thinks they would change things if they could hit rewind needs to consider...
Things could also get WORSE.
I'm sure they are a real lively crew. My dream is to retire on a few acres far away from any beach or city surrounded by grandchildren, gardens and animals.
I didn't mean go back to change things, I meant to go back and live it all over again. Hince the wording "do it all again".
