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Huge mess..punished for owning guns!?!

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Godfather4109

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I am a legal firearm carrier. I have been serving in the military for almost 3 years, and have a GA firearms license. I also have a collection of firearms. Recently I went through a pretty nasty breakup with my Fiance, whom i have an 18 month old daughter with. We seperated mainly because of her drug addictions and behavioral problems. After the separation she began spreading horrible lies about me all over town. She was always very anti-guns, and still is. She hated my collection and the fact that i carried. I am a well trained and responsible firearm owner, though she would claim otherwise. She has no proof of any of the accusations she has made, which include "pointing a firearm at her while in traffic." In fact i even have a witness that was with me when i allegedly pointed the firearm at her, who testified that i never did such a thing. And several other very credible character witnesses. I also have a completely clean backround, shy of a speeding ticket. After she began spreading these lies, she had a TPO taken out against me, which restrains me from being able to come within 200 yards of her, or my daughter because she claims i am dangerous. Before these problems involved any legal matters or authorities, i sold my collection to a friend of mine for safe keeping, knowing that things were going to get rather ugly with my separation and i did not want her to use my firearms against me, unfortunately i made this decision a little late, and it actually ended up making me look even worse, her lawyer made it look as if i sold the guns after "pointing one at her" in order to avoid getting in trouble. When i was served with the TPO i was ordered to surrender any and all firearms, which i no longer had at the time. A few weeks later, my ex fiance spotted me in traffic and followed me around town for nearly 30 minutes, in fact she finally ended up following me right to the police station, where i filed a police report against her, of course no actions were taken by the police or legal system. When questioned by my lawyer later on, she stated "she was following me to see if i had a gun" but also stated that she was in fear for her life at the time, this made no sense to me. She was never punished in any way for stalking me, nor was it even put on her record, after i filed the police complaint. I also have a credible witness of her stalking/following me that day, who happens to work for the sheriffs office. When i finally went to court, there was no evidence against me at all, other than a few facebook posts and myspace posts that were completely taken out of context and used against me, none ever stated her name or anything of that nature, and some of which were over 5 years old. I was never proven guilty of anything, nor was there even reason to believe i was guilty of anything, and like i stated before, i had a credible witness for the crimes i was accused of. My lawyer warned me before hand that my gun collection was going to be used against me in every way possible. As it turns out, the judge in our case is well known for disliking guns, and being very anti-firearms. When the court hearing was complete, i was completely confident that the judge would rule in my favor, drop or atleast reduce the TPO to a restraining order from my x, which would be fine by me so long as i could see my daughter. We obviously destroyed them in the hearing, they were caught in several lies, and had a lot of "i dont know" answers. However the Judge decided to extend the TPO for a period of 12 months, which restrains me from seeing my daughter. He also ordered that i have a very thorough and very expensive psychiatric evaluation done, which after paying for the lawyer i can not even afford to take now, this evaluation is expected to take around 4-6 months and could take as long as a year, i am not allowed to see my daughter until after the exam and next court date. The judge also ordered that i not possess nor even be round ANY firearms. This is causing me severe issues due to my military affiliation, and desire to pursue a career in law enforcement. I have now had to turn down one job with a police department, and one with a well respected armed security company due to the judges ruling that i stay away from firearms

I was just hoping maybe somebody could help give me some advice, i feel like im stuck, and being punished for having a firearm collection. I can understand some cause for concern with the allogations made against me, but feel like this is a little extreme and unfair. During all of this, my firearm permit was never suspended nor revoked. It sits still in my wallet so as any GA firearm permit owner knows, i could at any point walk into any gun store in town and purchase a gun if my intent was to hurt somebody, which of course it is not, as i have not done anything of the sort. This alone should show the judge that i do not intend to harm my daughter or my x, and am fully capable of seeing my little girl and being allowed to have my firearms back. I would be glad to explain this situation in more detail if somebody would like to contact me. I just need some advice and dont know what else i can do.
 
For the next 12 months your job is to be the man that you would want your daughter to marry one day. The days and weeks will turn into months and eventually this thing will be over. Your daughter will grow up and she will eventually be able to see right through her mom's lies. The day that she does, she will need someone to talk to, to confide in, and someone to trust. You need to be the person now.

I wish you the best of luck, and God bless you for your service to our Nation.
 
You are being punished for marrying the wrong chick...Guns are an easy excuse for her. I believe the judge is wrong in "decreeing" you not possess firearms. He had no grounds to usurp your Constitutional right to bear arms without a conviction. I would file a BAR complaint against this activist judge. Of course, there could be more to the story, but assuming you are truthful. Good luck with all that brother...
 
This is a hard position to be in. Yes, she may have told blatant lies and you told nothing but the truth. It doesn't matter to the judge, not right now at least. He is probably hoping that you will both cool down enough to work something out between yourselves. I don't understand being ordered to turn in your weapons, r being ordered to stay away from them alltogether.

From my own experience, I was in a similar situation, be the quietest individual you can, I will explain why later. Don't let her goad you into a fight at any cost. If she follows you, be sure to go to a public place so you will have witnesses. Keep your nose as clean as you possibly can, you can bet she will be watching you. Watch her closely too, but do it from a distance, so to speak. Don't tell folks what you have found out or saw her doing, keep it to yourself in a journal. For Pete's sake don't go posting about it all over the web, she may have your passwords.

Live your life as normally as you can, be a model citizen. Folks like her always get caught by their excesses sooner or later, and an arrest report for drug possesion is pretty good evidence against someone. Like I said be the quietest person you can, this is Ga. and you are a man. In child custody cases men generally don't fare well here. It is up to you to make your case against her, and if they can paint you to be a bitter, heartbroken man they will. Keep clean build your case quietly and you can win, I did.

The old adage "give them enough rope and they will hang themselves" applies here.
 
Lay low, stay away dont call and no e mails. If you see her go the other way. If she follows call 911 from your cell. If you don't have a cell get a pre paid one at Wal mart. They will all call 911 even without service subscription.
Good luck
 
i have not contacted her in months. not allowed to and i really dont want to so thats no problem. The problem here is that im being kept away from my daughter with no proven reason that i, a united states soldier was ordered to stay away from firearms. I have done everything i was told, other than getting the psych eval, but thats only because i cant afford it after paying for a lawyer and all of that. im already in debt with this.

I appreciate everybodys opinions. i guess im just stuck between a rock and a hard place. Its easy to make a gunowner the "bad guy"
 
It's easy to make a "guy" into the bad guy. The judge may be an activist judge, but he doesn't know you. Your kids mom knows that and she can play that up. What he doesn't want is for some lady to be killed by her crazy husband. He doesn't know that you are not crazy.

How much is the psych evaluation? If you can produce a letter from your commanding officer or platoon leader that states your a stand up guy and a good soldier. I'll chip in $50 bucks towards your pshych eval, and I bet others will too.
 
For the next 12 months your job is to be the man that you would want your daughter to marry one day. The days and weeks will turn into months and eventually this thing will be over. Your daughter will grow up and she will eventually be able to see right through her mom's lies. The day that she does, she will need someone to talk to, to confide in, and someone to trust. You need to be the person now.

I wish you the best of luck, and God bless you for your service to our Nation.

I agree with hoboken911 100%. You need to be the walking example of what she claims you are NOT. A great father and upstanding man.
 
I have an ex and we are going through a similar issue..Believe RoyD...things will come full circle...........Just be what you know you are supposed to be and the rest will fall in place...took me 10 years before i finally was able to see my 10 year old daughter...and as it stands she is now living with me...so trust and have faith things do come full circle...and yeaha if you set up a paypal account i will pitch in 20 bucks towards your psych eval.....Good luck man
 
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