Need some girl advice. Real tricky situation...

[streetroc]

SWIM has known this girl for about 8 years. Shes intelligent, vibrant, and has a real sweet personality. On top of that she is drop dead gorgeous and has an absolutely smoking little body. SWIM is very close to this girl, and has been for a long time. For the last 6 years SWIM has had a very strong attraction to this girl that goes much deeper than just being sexual. Recently, SWIM has been seeing more of this girl and she and SWIM have been getting even closer. Not too long ago this girl confessed to SWIM that she has been harboring the same kind of feelings and SWIM told her that he felt the same way. Sounds awesome right? Well, not exactly...

This girl just so happens to be the ex-gf of one of SWIM's best friends. SWIM's friend was with this girl for several years and was really attached to her. (nothing ever happened between SWIM and the girl while they were together!) SWIM's friend has since moved on and has a new gf that he has been with for several years now.

Now SWIM is really having strong feelings for this girl but feels that it would still be "wrong" to date her. SWIM and this girl both want to date each other, but are very cautious about it. SWIM's brain is telling him that it is a bad idea and to just walk away but SWIM cares about this girl deeply and doesn't want to blow an opportunity to do something about it.

What do you guys think SWIM should do?

 

[scandmx5]

swim away. bros before hoes...not sayin she's a hoe
or
ask said friend what he thinks about it...if he's okay with it, then go for it.

 

[drtybykr]

Talk to your buddy. If he is happy where he is at he should be fine. He will appreciate you coming to him instead of finding it out another way.

 

[CJC]

I would tell swim to talk it over with his friend. I have dated a close friends x before and we were still friends afterwards.

 

[at]

Ask your friend, I would.

 

[Kdenton2448]

I agree with scan def bros before hoes but i would ask the friend and if hes coll with it then jump in

 

[streetroc]

A couple more things worth noting...

1. SWIM has known this girl for longer than he has known his friend and was close to her long before they ever dated.

2. SWIM considers this friend to be like a brother and would never betray him. However, he also feels like it has been several years since the breakup and his friend has long since moved on so anything that happens between SWIM and the girl is their business. SWIM's friend has not even spoken to the girl in over a year.

 

[RIDDLE]

SWIM needs to ask his friend for sure. If he says "NO" SWIM will need to decide if the friendship is worth it. I would hate to see SWIM live with regrets.........tell him to go after what he wants.

 

[RIDDLE]

A couple more things worth noting...

1. SWIM has known this girl for longer than he has known his friend and was close to her long before they ever dated.

2. SWIM considers this friend to be like a brother and would never betray him. However, he also feels like it has been several years since the breakup and his friend has long since moved on so anything that happens between SWIM and the girl is their business. SWIM's friend has not even spoken to the girl in over a year.

How good of a friend would SWIM's friend be if his jealous/insecure ways kept his friend from potentially finding love?

 

[bearpugh]

if he's like a brother, swim should be able to talk to him.