I don’t believe in destiny at all. We are the sum total of our choices and experiences in the past. So, while I have regrets, if I did anything different I may not have the wife an child I do now and I would not change that for the world. Having said that........I wasn’t sure where else to post this. Here’s what’s going on though. Im struggling to find my purpose in life, if any at all. Im currently 22 (about to be 23), have been going to college very inconsistently with a couple semesters here and there with plenty of breaks in between. The reason for this is because I can’t seem to figure out what I’m good at or what I want to do. It’s all very overwhelming and I’m getting flustered seeing all my friends graduate while I’m still over here messing around. I know you guys can’t exactly tell me what I should be doing, but I’m hoping someone can share a similar experience and help point me in the right direction.
I did joint enrollment while in high school; was just a few credit hours shy of being a sophomore in college when I graduated high school. I wanted to go to law school, then got to know a few lawyers and changed my mind. Spend the next 8 (!) years dicking around in college because I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. I wasted a lot of my parents money, killed a lot of brain cells doing stupid ****, and lost what should have been good years being a waste.
I finally graduated and started working in a restaurant in Atlanta making good money (restaurant life is great if you’re young. I highly recommend everyone do it for at least 6 months). I loved the work and made a career out of that. The money was great, the company was good (don’t work for a lame ass company that doesn’t offer benefits. You’ll thank me when you retire at 50.) and I kept getting promoted at work. It was fun until it wasn’t.
After years of restaurant life I made a career change in my late 30’s to booze sales. It offered better hours and more time with my family. I found a passion for wine, became a sommelier, and love my job again.
Find something you enjoy. But something that pays the bills, too. Money can’t buy happiness but you can’t pay your rent with smiles and rainbows.
What do you like to do in life? What is your passion? What kind of work makes you happy? Sometimes it takes a while to find it but keep trying.
And, don’t be a mopey ass energy black hole. Enjoy whatever you do and do it to your fullest and best and you’ll be happier in general.
I’ve been where you are. I probably shouldn’t have wasted time in college and done all that liver damage, but I love my life now and get to have fun at work almost every day.