wanted some advice from you guys

[kennyallen]

So my wife has this friend at work who's husband came home from deployment on the first of December. Not really close friends but friends. Anyway, while he was gone she's been struggling to make it, bills, rent etc. We have been helping where we can, child care, stuff like that. Well now they are so far behind in their stuff they are getting evicted from their apartment. They moved to Athens to be close to her parents, who moved to Florida so she was here alone. They have a very small amount of money between them. I know there are programs to assist them in this struggle, Brooke ( my wife) has been on the phone and computer all weekend trying to figure some thing out for them. I have a little bit of money saved up to buy some new toys( guns lol) I think I'm going to give them, so they have money to get caught up on their bills, mostly to get them thru until their taxes are in to pay me back. My wife wants me to help get them into another house that's cheaper on them overall and call the money a gift. I don't want to be "greedy" and ask for the money back but I also don't wanna lose $$$.

What would you guys do?

 

[dwblock]

Loaning money is giving away money; you'll never see it again. If you're going to give, then give.

 

[b.a.customkydex]

Never loan money to a friend....it's a gift cause you'll never get it back. I learned that with 2 grand.

 

[GAGunguy]

I always consider money lent/given to friends/family a gift. If you dont then you may lose the friend when they dont pay it back and you will end up being pissed off.

If you get it back then you will have a nice surprise.

If you cant consider it a gift, then get some collateral in return so you wont be mad if it doesnt get paid back. r

 

[Cartman]

DON'T DO IT!!!! You will never see it again. Let her parents help them!

 

[Retired Army]

If you can afford it, give it as a gift. If they are Army, point them towards Army Emergency Relief, Operation Home Front (helps all branches), Army Community Service, as well. If not, each service has similar offices. They can help out in situations like these. Best of luck

 

[white]

What they said. If you want to help them out and dont care if you get the cash back do it. Otherwise just keep it cause it is not worth losing cash and a friendship over.

 

[Grdbreaker]

Loaning money is giving away money; you'll never see it again. If you're going to give, then give.

This! $1500 mistake for me when i could afford it,now i cant!

 

[kennyallen]

I've been in bad spots before, my parents don't really have much to do with me for years so I've had to push thru or rely on a helping hand. I think you guys are right tho, about loaning money. They are not my friends, but I struggled like hell when I was in the ARMY. It was a long time ago but I remember my ex-wife always needing to borrow money to make ends meet, sometimes doing those "payday loans" when she needed them. My wife and I don't have much to offer the work but we try to be good people. This was money I saved in a ammo box all year. (I take ALL five dollar bills and put them in there) its isn't going to make or break me. Just some extra gun money.

 

[Retired Army]

OTE=Retired Army;3004765]If you can afford it, give it as a gift. If they are Army, point them towards Army Emergency Relief, Operation Home Front (helps all branches), Army Community Service, as well. If not, each service has similar offices. They can help out in situations like these. Best of luck

Ill send this info to Brooke, she may have called them. I'm not sure. Thanks![/QUOTE]

Any time brother. We have all been there. Let them do what they do. They have a lot more resources to help if your friends keep asking. I have a soft spot for our military families.