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And as far as children go....we're both in our late 40s, I already have a wonderful daughter from a previous marriage (that, by the way ended horribly) so no children in our sights. Having been married before to a very controlling woman (and might I add she still is), I do have the "Spidey-sense" to that dynamic. I think to some degree most women display this type of behavior every now and then, and the fact that I see it in my GF sometimes doesn't mean I should throw the baby out with the bathwater. In her defense, she is a terrific woman, loves me like I've never been loved before, loves my daughter as her own, and 90% of the time I'm happy. At this point in life, I have to wonder if it gets any better than that.
It definitely merits a long conversation between she and I, to dig into why she said that, and draw a very hard line in the sand as to what that means to me, and what my boundaries are regarding that. I'll be talking to her shortly...will keep all you gents posted. Thanks to all for the input, even the smart-a** ones ;)

I think you just answered your own question.
Good luck Bro!
 
Having a foreign wife isn't all fun and games. I know, I've have one for 25 long years, I'm one of the few lucky ones. I have to be honest, Most just want a green card. The majority dump their husbands at 2 years when they get the permanent green card. They think America is a woman's wonderland, and become disillusioned fast. They talk amongst each other urging themselves to get a divorce and make you pay alimony while they shack up with someone else. You have to sacrifice friends and family because they think everyone is against them, and there will always be misunderstandings that you will have to tolerate to stay married. To be brutally honest, I strongly recommend against it. Go party your ass off, but marry somebody of your same culture.
 
Having a foreign wife isn't all fun and games. I know, I've have one for 25 long years, I'm one of the few lucky ones. I have to be honest, Most just want a green card. The majority dump their husbands at 2 years when they get the permanent green card. They think America is a woman's wonderland, and become disillusioned fast. They talk amongst each other urging themselves to get a divorce and make you pay alimony while they shack up with someone else. You have to sacrifice friends and family because they think everyone is against them, and there will always be misunderstandings that you will have to tolerate to stay married. To be brutally honest, I strongly recommend against it. Go party your ass off, but marry somebody of your same culture.


She's definitely not after a green card. She lived here already, in Miami and in San Fransisco... has a visa, and is a member of one of Costa Rica's most prominent families (her Dad practically built that country, he was even honored by being on their currency years ago). I'm small potatoes to someone like her, but she loves me anyway. So, you can take the green card argument off the table...
 
She's definitely not after a green card. She lived here already, in Miami and in San Fransisco... has a visa, and is a member of one of Costa Rica's most prominent families (her Dad practically built that country, he was even honored by being on their currency years ago). I'm small potatoes to someone like her, but she loves me anyway. So, you can take the green card argument off the table...
This just keeps getting better. Now, if you cross her you turn up missing.
 
If it feels like big brother is watching over your shoulder then yes you have reason to halt and not go there.


Hell, my spine is tingling and I'm not the one considering it!
 
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